I never got to think about this before at least not deeply. How where you have been can dictate where you will go to. I have a very complex introverted personality. I grew up shy and quiet, always having something to say but not having the confidence to say it. Now grown up I can talk but I am not the conversation starter. I always used to wonder how like-minded individuals found each other since I have difficulty with that. I find that the multitudes of my siblings' friends are of the same wavelength as I am but why can't I be able to attract those same people to my life.
A lady that spoke at a seminar recently said something that resonated with me.
She said she was working hard to make enough money to travel the world with her kids so they would be exposed and not fall prey to unambitious people that talk alot. Casanovas that promise you Paris and Rome just to get you in a hotel room ... It made sense really. It helps to sift out like 70% of the male suitors. I know I am smarter than this but I had to take a look at myself and wonder if I have been gullible in the past.
She said she was working hard to make enough money to travel the world with her kids so they would be exposed and not fall prey to unambitious people that talk alot. Casanovas that promise you Paris and Rome just to get you in a hotel room ... It made sense really. It helps to sift out like 70% of the male suitors. I know I am smarter than this but I had to take a look at myself and wonder if I have been gullible in the past.
Fine, my parents are well off and raised us in a disciplined environment. But I did something I shouldn't do and looked at some of my friends who are also well off. They travel every summer and have a lot of confidence, is it directly related really? Would I have had a bigger personality if I got the same opportunities? Maybe I am not where I am supposed to be but I wish I did have more exposure. I plan to achieve all these things that I want though its hard to do it alone, but I realise the importance. But its the fear of 'what are you willing to do to get there?' Less than ideal opportunities will come up that demand lack of principled action but it would be so easy to fall since you are so focused on the prize and forget your ground rules.
This might just be an in depth jealousy rant or an attack of lack of self confidence.
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I just have to work through the feeling of being less than everyone, wanting to fade to the background, and not deserving the good things (and people) when they come. (All hidden content intended)
On a lighter note I went on a date with a guy once whose sweet talk involved talking me to my dream tourist vacation. And after all the talk the guy asks me to go to Lagos with him as if he was doing me a favour. In my head I am like WTF!! My parents live there and I buy my own tickets frequently. Then he said PH and I am like no way idiot! Then he asks me where I want to go and I tell him my must-see-before-I-die list and he is like no there's no money. Even though I was slightly tipsy I told him to take a back seat out of the vantage point of my rear view mirror.
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